Isteri Mithali


Peribadi Isteri Solehah

Taat dan Berbakti Kepada Suaminya

Abu Hurairah meriwayatkan bahawa Nabi s.a.w bersabda :

"Sebaik-baik wanita adalah apabila engkau pandang dia
maka dia
bila engkau perintah dia taat, bila engkau tiada dia
menjaga hartamu
dan menjaga pula kehormatan dirinya."

Wanita Islm yang bijaksana sentiasa mahu mencari
keredhaan Allah
dengan taat kepada suaminya dalam perkara yang bukan
maksiat, berbakti
untuk suaminya dan sentiasa berusaha untuk
menggembirakan suaminya.
DIa akan redha dengan kesusahan atau kesempitan
hidupnya, sebagaimana
yang telah dicatatkan dalam sejarah Islm unggulnya
peribadi Fatimah

Wanita Islm yang benar, rela berkhidmat di rumah untuk
dan dia tahu hak suami ke atasnya. Sesungguhnya ia
adalah hak yang
amat besar sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah saw.:

"Kalaulah aku mahu memerintahkan seseorg sujud kepada
yang lain, nescaya aku akan perintahkan wanita sujud
kepada suaminya."
(Hadith Hassan Sahih riwayat Tarmidzi)

Ketaatan adalah satu penyebab bagi wanita ke syurga
sebagaimana sabda
Rasulullah saw:

"Apabila wanita itu telah melakukan solat lima waktu,
puasa pada
bulannya, taat kepada suaminya, menjaga kemaluannya,
akan dikatakan
kepada dia: Masuklah kamu ke dalam syurga daripada
mana-mana pintu
yang kamu sukai." (Riwayat Ibn Majah)

Disamping itu, Islm juga mengancam dengan dosa,
kemurkaan dan laknat
kepada wanita yang berpaling daripada peringatan ini:

"Apabila seseorang lelaki memanggil isterinya
kekatilnya tetapi
dia enggan mendatanginya, lalu suaminya tidur dalam
keadaan marah
kepadanya nescaya malaikat akan melaknatnya sehingga
waktu subuh
(Sahih Muslim)

Keperibadian Isteri Yang Solehah

- Taat dan Berbakti Kepada Suaminya
- Berbakti Kepada Ibu Mertuanya dan Memuliakan
- Mesra dengan Suami dan Sentiasa Berusaha Mencari
- Tidak Memecahkan Rahsianya
- Berdiri disisinya dan Berkongsi Pandangan Dengannya.

- Membantu Suami Mentaati ALlah
- Menguasai Jiwa Suaminya
- Berhias Untuk Suami
- Menemui Suami didalam kegembiraan dan Bersyukur
- Berkongsi Kesedihan dan Kegembiraan Suami
- Menundukkan Pandangan Selain Untuk Suami
- Tidak Menceritakan Keadaan Wanita Lain Kepada Suami.

- Mewujudkan Ketenangan, Kerehatan dan Kedamaian Dalam
- Bertoleransi dan Memaafkan
- Keperibadian Yang Kuat dan Bijaksana


"Dan di antara tanda-tanda kekuasaan-Nya ialah Dia
menciptakan untukmu
isteri-isteri dari jenismu sendiri, supaya kamu
cenderung dan merasa
tenteram kepadanya, dan dijadikan-Nya diantaramu rasa
kasih dan
sayang. Sesungguhnya pada yang demikian itu
benar-benar terdapat
tanda-tanda bagi kaum yang berfikir." [Surah Ar-Rum

'Abdullah ibn Umar


At Shaykhan, halfway between Madinah and Uhud, the thousand strong Muslim army led by the Prophet (saw) stopped. The sun had begun to sink beneath the horizon. The Prophet (saw) dismounted from his horse Sakb. He was fully dressed for battle. A turban was wound about his helmet. He wore a breastplate, beneath which was a coat of mail which was fastened with a leather sword belt. A shield was slung across his back and his sword hung from his side.

As the sun set, Bilal (ra) called the adhan and they prayed. The Prophet (saw) then reviewed his troops once more and it was then that he noticed in their midst the presence of eight boys who, despite their age, were hoping to take part in the battle. Among them were Zayd's son Usamah and 'Umar's son 'Abdullah (ra), both only thirteen years old. The Prophet (saw) ordered them all to return home immediately. Two of the boys however demonstrated that they were able fighters and were allowed to accompany the army to the Battle of Uhud, while the others were sent back to their families.

From an early age, 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) thus demonstrated his keenness to be associated with the Prophet (saw) in all his undertakings. He had accepted Islam before he was ten years old and had made the Hijrah with his father and his sister, Hafsah (ra), who was later to become a wife of the Prophet (saw). Before Uhud, he was also turned away from the Battle of Badr and it was not until the Battle of the Trench that he and Usamah (ra), both now fifteen years old, and other of their age were allowed to join the ranks of the men, not only for the digging of the trench but for the battle when it came.

From the time of his hijrah till the time of his death, more than seventy years later, 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) distinguished himself in the service of Islam and was regarded among Muslims as "the Good One, son of the Good One", according to Abu Musa al-Ash'ari (ra). He was known for his knowledge, his humility, his generosity, his piety, his truthfulness, his incorruptibility and his constancy in acts of 'ibadah.

From his great and illustrious father, 'Umar (ra), he learnt a great deal and both he and his father had the benefit of learning from the greatest teacher of all, Muhammad the Messenger of Allah (saw). 'Abdullah (ra) would observe and scrutinize closely every saying and action of the Prophet (saw) in various situations and he would practice what he observed closely and with devotion. For example, if 'Abdullah (ra) saw the Prophet (saw) performing Salat in a particular place, he would later pray in the same place. If he saw the Prophet (saw) making a du'a' while standing, he would also make supplication while standing. If he saw him making a du'a' while sitting, he would do the same. On a journey if he saw the Prophet (saw) descend from his camel at a particular place and pray two rak'ats, and he had occasion to pass on the same route, he would stop at the same place and pray two rak'ats. At a particular place in Makkah, he once observed the Prophet's camel making two complete turns before he dismounted and prayed two rak'ats. It might be that the camel did that involuntarily but 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra), when he happened to be in the same place at another time, made his camel complete two turns before making it kneel and dismount. He then prayed two rak'ats in precisely the same manner as he had seen the Prophet (saw) do.

'A'ishah (ra) noticed this devotion of 'Abdullah (ra) to the Prophet (saw) and remarked:

"There was no one who followed the footsteps of the Prophet (saw) in the places where he alighted as did Ibn 'Umar (ra)."

In spite of his close observance of the Prophet's actions, 'Abdullah (ra) was extremely cautious, even afraid, of reporting the sayings of the Prophet (saw). He would only relate a hadith if he was completely sure that he remembered every word of it. One of his contemporaries said:

"Among the companions of the Prophet (saw), no one was more cautious about adding to or subtracting from the hadith of the Prophet (saw) than 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra)."

Similarly, he was extremely cautious and reluctant to make legal judgments (fatwas). Once someone came to him asking for a judgment on a particular matter and 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) replied:

"I have no knowledge of what you ask."

The man went on his way and 'Abdullah (ra) clapped his hands in glee and said to himself:

"The son of 'Umar (ra) was asked about what he does not know and he said: I do not know."

Because of this attitude he was reluctant to be a qadi even though he was well qualified to be one. The position of qadi was one of the most important and esteemed offices in the Muslim society and state, bringing with it honor, glory and even riches but he declined this position when it was offered him by the Khalifah 'Uthman (ra). His reason for doing so was not that he underestimated the importance of the position of qadi but because of his fear of committing errors of judgment in matters pertaining to Islam. 'Uthman (ra) made him agree not to disclose his decision lest it might influence the many other companions of the Prophet (saw) who actually performed the duties of judges and jurisconsults.

'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) was once described as the "brother of the night." He would stay up at night performing Salat, weeping and seeking God's forgiveness, and reading Qur'an. To his sister, Hafsah (ra), the Prophet (saw) once said: "What a blessed man is 'Abdullah (ra). Should he perform Salat at night he would be blessed even more."

From that day, 'Abdullah (ra) did not abandon Qiyam al-Layl whether at home or on journeys. In the stillness of the nights, he would remember Allah (swt) much, perform Salat and read the Qur'an and weep. Like his father, tears came readily to his eyes especially when he heard the warning verses of the Qur'an. 'Ubayd ibn 'Umayr (ra) has related that one day he read these verses to 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra):

"How then (will the sinners fare on Judgment Day) when We shall bring forward witnesses from within every community and bring you (O Prophet) as witness against them? Those who were bent on denying the truth and paid no heed to the Apostle will on that Day wish that the earth would swallow them but they shall not (be able to) conceal from Allah anything that has happened." (Surah an-Nisa', 4:41-42)

'Abdullah (ra) cried on listening to these verses until his beard was moist with tears.

One day, he was sitting among some close friends and he read:

"Woe unto those who give short measure, those who, when they are to receive their due from people, demand that it be given in full but when they have to measure or weigh whatever they owe to others, give less than what is due. Do they not know that they are bound to be raised from the dead (and called to account) on an awesome Day, the Day when all men shall stand before the Sustainer of all the worlds?" (Surah al-Mutaffifin, 83:1-6)

At this point he kept on repeating "the Day when all men shall stand before the Sustainer of all the worlds" over and over again and weeping until he was faint.

Piety, simplicity and generosity combined in 'Abdullah (ra) to make him a person who was highly esteemed by the companions and those who came after them. He gave generously and did not mind parting with wealth even if he himself would fall in want as a result. He was a successful and trustworthy trader throughout his life. In addition to this he had a generous stipend from the Bayt al-Mal which he would often spend on the poor and those in need. Ayyub ibn Wa'il (ra) recounted one incident of his generosity:

One day, 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) received four thousand dirhams and a velvet blanket. The following day Ayyub (ra) saw him in the suq buying fodder for his camel on credit. Ayyub (ra) then went to 'Abdullah's family and asked:

"Didn't Abu 'Abdur-Rahman (meaning 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar) (ra) get four thousand dirhams and a blanket yesterday?"

"Yes, indeed," they replied.

"But I saw him today in the suq buying fodder for his camel and he had no money to pay for it."

"Before nightfall yesterday, he had parted with it all. Then he took the blanket and threw it over his shoulder and went out. When he returned it was not with him. We asked him about it and he said that he had given it to a poor person," they explained.

'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) encouraged the feeding and the helping of the poor and the needy. Often when he ate, there were orphans and poor people eating with him. He rebuked his children for treating the rich and ignoring the poor. He once said to them:

"You invite the rich and forsake the poor!"

For 'Abdullah (ra), wealth was a servant not a master. It was a means towards attaining the necessities of life, not for acquiring luxuries. He was helped in this attitude by his asceticism and simple life-style. One of his friends who came from Khurasan once brought him a fine elegant piece of clothing.

"I have brought this s thawb for you from Khurasan," he said. "It would certainly bring coolness to your eyes. I suggest that you take off these coarse clothes you have and put on this beautiful thawb."

"Show it to me then," said 'Abdullah (ra) and on touching it he asked: "Is it silk?"

"No, it is cotton," replied his friend.

For a little while, 'Abdullah (ra) was pleased. Then with his right hand he pushed away the thawb and said:

"No! I am afraid for myself. I fear that it shall make me arrogant and boastful. And Allah (swt) does not love the arrogant boaster."

Maymun ibn Mahran (ra) relates the following:

"I entered the house of Ibn 'Umar. I estimated everything in his house including his bed, his blanket, his carpet and everything else in it. What I found was not a hundred dirhams' worth."

That was not because 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar (ra) was poor. Indeed he was rich. Neither was it because he was a miser for indeed he was generous and liberal.